Hello friends.
What the heck! Its the end of November. This year has flown by. I'm in shock.
Ok - so last week both my boys had awesome accomplishments and I wanted to share.
We signed J up for Tae Kwon Do through our rec department in the fall. He has been going for 5 weeks now. Last week was testing week. He had a drill he had learned and he had to break a board. And break one he did! Here is video. Apparently, he and another boy were the only ones to be offered the thickest boards to break. Check out his proud face at the end!
Not to be outdone, this video of Z was taken on midweek last week. He didn't turn 10 months old till Sunday. He is much better every day.
My life is full of things I am thankful for, but mostly these two healthy growing thriving boys. Have a fantastic holiday everyone.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Monday, October 24, 2011
Walking - eeeek!
Hello friends.
Yes, you read that right. Z is walking. Well, to be fair he's walking holding hands but did take a few actual steps last night. I give it a week or so before we are in big trouble!
In other catch up news. Per my breakdown post last week, Z had his check up on Wednesday night and is, are you ready for it? 17.8 lbs! He's only in the 8th percentile for weight! And no, has still not doubled his birth weight. Sigh. He has shot up in height though, I don't remember the inches but he is 73rd for height as opposed to the 40-something he was last time. I guess we are getting there.
Z was wriggling, crawling, pulling to standing, babbling and chewing on everything while the Dr was in there. He laughed and said it looks like he just burns it all off. I agreed. Few ground rules, he can only have formula, no water, no juice. Sad as he LOVES water! Only formula, we can introduce meats and feed him when and whatever he will eat. So we keep trying with the baby food for now, especially cereal as I mix with formula and its another vehicle for those all important calories. We have been offering him some real food. I have been a bit like a mama bird lately. Husband made grownup mac-n-cheese on Thursday and I sucked the cheese and other stuff off of a few noodles and gave him small pieces. LOVE! Yesterday, I did the same to potatoes from a chicken pot pie. LOVE. Last weekend, I did the same with grapes - to get it out of the skin, and yesterday with a dill pickle. I gave him some ice cream on a spoon. He loves it. I think he really likes to eat that way there is just no way he can get enough that way. Working on a balance between baby food and people food so he gets enough calories and can continue with is independence.
Mommy got some rest and though nothing is any cleaner or more organized, it is what it is and my panic about life and no time, has abated for today. One day at a time. That's all for now. Hope you all have a great week.
Yes, you read that right. Z is walking. Well, to be fair he's walking holding hands but did take a few actual steps last night. I give it a week or so before we are in big trouble!
In other catch up news. Per my breakdown post last week, Z had his check up on Wednesday night and is, are you ready for it? 17.8 lbs! He's only in the 8th percentile for weight! And no, has still not doubled his birth weight. Sigh. He has shot up in height though, I don't remember the inches but he is 73rd for height as opposed to the 40-something he was last time. I guess we are getting there.
Z was wriggling, crawling, pulling to standing, babbling and chewing on everything while the Dr was in there. He laughed and said it looks like he just burns it all off. I agreed. Few ground rules, he can only have formula, no water, no juice. Sad as he LOVES water! Only formula, we can introduce meats and feed him when and whatever he will eat. So we keep trying with the baby food for now, especially cereal as I mix with formula and its another vehicle for those all important calories. We have been offering him some real food. I have been a bit like a mama bird lately. Husband made grownup mac-n-cheese on Thursday and I sucked the cheese and other stuff off of a few noodles and gave him small pieces. LOVE! Yesterday, I did the same to potatoes from a chicken pot pie. LOVE. Last weekend, I did the same with grapes - to get it out of the skin, and yesterday with a dill pickle. I gave him some ice cream on a spoon. He loves it. I think he really likes to eat that way there is just no way he can get enough that way. Working on a balance between baby food and people food so he gets enough calories and can continue with is independence.
Mommy got some rest and though nothing is any cleaner or more organized, it is what it is and my panic about life and no time, has abated for today. One day at a time. That's all for now. Hope you all have a great week.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Eating struggles & How to get it done
Hello Friends,
Well I write today as a frustrated mama bear. No worries, Baby Z is happy and healthy. And super stubborn! I just don't know what to do.
He is not a good eater when there is a lot going on so when we were out of town this weekend, I was not surprised when he didn't do well with the bottle. With 6 other kids and 5 adults in a small space, he just couldn't be bothered to sit still and drink. He did fairly well with cereal, fruit and veggies at lunch and dinner so I wasn't too worried. He was just a bit low on liquid. This brings us to coming home Sunday night. He refused to eat his dinner for Husband (I had run to get a pizza) so we chalked it up to tired baby, tossed him in bed and he took a nap. Woke up took a bath, refused more food, nursed and went to sleep.
Monday he ate AWESOME for the sitter. Big bottles and gobbled up his lunch of cereal and fruit. Then I put him in the highchair for dinner and when approached with the spoon, closed his lips tight ,arched his body away and looked at the wall. I tried several times to coerce him into eating and it ended with him crying. So I put him in his crib and he falls asleep. Again attribute it to tired baby and will try again later. He woke up at 8:30 and again had no interest in eating, just playing. Gave him a few ounces out of a bottle and nursed him to sleep (night time nursing is slowly fading away).
Tuesday, rinse repeat. Although I lost my temper, not at him of course, but I did lose it. I cleaned him up (carrots ended up everywhere when I tried to let him do it himself), put him in his crib for a nap and crawled onto my own bed angry, sad, frustrated, worried. Is he getting enough nutrition? He is super happy and beyond active. Am I doing the right thing? Is he just not hungry? I'm doing my best and to provide food for him and he refuses.
He is such a light weight. We go tonight for his 9 month appointment and I'm not sure he is much over 16 lbs. So far he has yet to double his birth weight - should have done that by 6 months. We will see what the Dr has to say. He is a great pediatrician, I just feel like sometimes, he is educating me on being a better parent in a sort of condescending way. So as much as I need to go for advice, I'm prepping for being "taught."
This is all compounded with my current frustration with how to get it all done....How on earth do we get what needs doing with J and Z in the 2 hours we are home after work before J needs to be in bed? In the door, got through his backpack, try to prep for the morning, make J's dinner, feed Z (when he wants to eat....), possibly make our dinner (this is often pushed back till 9 after everyone else is taken care of and in bed), is there school work? can he get some reading or math drills in?, bedtime routines and tuck in. Lord help us if its a bath night or we need to run to the store on the way home. My house is a mess, and not as clean as it should be, I'm exhausted and feel like I'm on a gerbil wheel. What happens when J has real homework next year? How do people do it? And make it look effortless? The answer people give me is you just do it. When? and How? This doesn't even begin to address that J cannot be in after school activities because it ends before I'm done with work at 5 and I have no child care for him unless he goes on the day care van right after school.....Chess club ends at 4:30, Soccer starts at 5. Baseball starts at 5.
J is tap dancing again this year and we are going to try Tae Kwon Do through our rec dept starting tomorrow. That now chews up 2 nights after pick up so the routine listed above just got bumped an hour to an hour and a half later.....I'm at a loss. I guess if I dont have to feed Z an evening meal, it just got easier right......?
Well I write today as a frustrated mama bear. No worries, Baby Z is happy and healthy. And super stubborn! I just don't know what to do.
He is not a good eater when there is a lot going on so when we were out of town this weekend, I was not surprised when he didn't do well with the bottle. With 6 other kids and 5 adults in a small space, he just couldn't be bothered to sit still and drink. He did fairly well with cereal, fruit and veggies at lunch and dinner so I wasn't too worried. He was just a bit low on liquid. This brings us to coming home Sunday night. He refused to eat his dinner for Husband (I had run to get a pizza) so we chalked it up to tired baby, tossed him in bed and he took a nap. Woke up took a bath, refused more food, nursed and went to sleep.
Monday he ate AWESOME for the sitter. Big bottles and gobbled up his lunch of cereal and fruit. Then I put him in the highchair for dinner and when approached with the spoon, closed his lips tight ,arched his body away and looked at the wall. I tried several times to coerce him into eating and it ended with him crying. So I put him in his crib and he falls asleep. Again attribute it to tired baby and will try again later. He woke up at 8:30 and again had no interest in eating, just playing. Gave him a few ounces out of a bottle and nursed him to sleep (night time nursing is slowly fading away).
Tuesday, rinse repeat. Although I lost my temper, not at him of course, but I did lose it. I cleaned him up (carrots ended up everywhere when I tried to let him do it himself), put him in his crib for a nap and crawled onto my own bed angry, sad, frustrated, worried. Is he getting enough nutrition? He is super happy and beyond active. Am I doing the right thing? Is he just not hungry? I'm doing my best and to provide food for him and he refuses.
He is such a light weight. We go tonight for his 9 month appointment and I'm not sure he is much over 16 lbs. So far he has yet to double his birth weight - should have done that by 6 months. We will see what the Dr has to say. He is a great pediatrician, I just feel like sometimes, he is educating me on being a better parent in a sort of condescending way. So as much as I need to go for advice, I'm prepping for being "taught."
This is all compounded with my current frustration with how to get it all done....How on earth do we get what needs doing with J and Z in the 2 hours we are home after work before J needs to be in bed? In the door, got through his backpack, try to prep for the morning, make J's dinner, feed Z (when he wants to eat....), possibly make our dinner (this is often pushed back till 9 after everyone else is taken care of and in bed), is there school work? can he get some reading or math drills in?, bedtime routines and tuck in. Lord help us if its a bath night or we need to run to the store on the way home. My house is a mess, and not as clean as it should be, I'm exhausted and feel like I'm on a gerbil wheel. What happens when J has real homework next year? How do people do it? And make it look effortless? The answer people give me is you just do it. When? and How? This doesn't even begin to address that J cannot be in after school activities because it ends before I'm done with work at 5 and I have no child care for him unless he goes on the day care van right after school.....Chess club ends at 4:30, Soccer starts at 5. Baseball starts at 5.
J is tap dancing again this year and we are going to try Tae Kwon Do through our rec dept starting tomorrow. That now chews up 2 nights after pick up so the routine listed above just got bumped an hour to an hour and a half later.....I'm at a loss. I guess if I dont have to feed Z an evening meal, it just got easier right......?
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
zach
Hello Friends,
Life has been super busy. Sorry for not posting more regularly. Some updates. The week J started school, we took Z to the sitter and we had a Mommy and Daddy day with him. Rock climbing in the morning (not me, Im afraid of heights), a pizza arcade place for lunch and the zoo in the afternoon. What a great day. For him, and us. It was nice to spend time with out worrying about Z's naps, feeding or fussing. A great way to end the summer.
Jackson is settling into first grade, and we are all settling into a school year routine. Earlier bedtimes, reading and math practice, behaving in school. And keeping up with Z who is now at 8 months is furniture cruising, crawling, climbing, standing.....moving everywhere. If that child is not moving, hes sleeping! If you get in his way or he cant get where he thinks he should, he had quite the temper. He is so much more work, and soooo much fun than I remembered.
On September 11, we took a day and went to see Husbands sister and family. It turned into a wonderful day sitting on their back porch visiting, catching up and watching the cousins (and some adults-again, not me) ride the zip line they put up in their back yard. Yes I did say zip line. This is the same family that turns their backyard into an ice skating rink in the winter. Here are pics of J getting used to it and then flying by (cousin E holding on to a stop rope just in case).
One more thing I just had to share. Z has a little couch and he loves to climb over it. His method is hilarious and unexpected. Enjoy this little video. Dancer friends, don't you think of "Singin in the Rain"? What a cutie!
Monday, August 8, 2011
Too fast
Hello Friends.
Well this summer is just a whirlwind - it's going by waaaay too fast. How in the heck did it become August? I promised pictures a few weeks ago but I swear it was just the other day! I will not post this with out pictures, I promise!
Since that post we went to a cabin in central Wisconsin with some very good friends. I'm not sure I would take a mobile 6 month old to a tiny cabin with 4 adults and 3 other children again but we did. When we planned it, we thought he would be much more stationary. How mobile can he be at 6 months right? Not so much -he was everywhere! Next year he will be 18 months old and very mobile but I am prepared for that and it seems much more manageable
The rest of us had a great time! Swimming in the lake, taking out the paddle boat a few times (I am seriously out of shape - that totally kicked my a$$!). Here is a nice pic of all the kids in the lake. My bestie E is right nearby and the curly headed girl in purple is my god-daughter. (Z is E's god-son. We are a tight bunch.)
Someone gave us a Dome Away from Home thing for Z, I dont think they make them anymore but was it nice. It was a gorgeous breezy day so I put Z in it near the lake and 30 min later I saw this......
What a life, I totally would have sacked out like that if there was one in my size!
On Saturday, Husband rallied in order to coach me through prepping the ribs for a long 6 hour smoke (OMG were they good!) and to get J set up to fish. J had practiced his casting all day Friday while daddy was sick so was pretty good by the time he actually got a worm and a hook on the line. Didn't take long before he caught his first fish all by himself. This was the first year that Husband wasn't right there helping. Look at that smile (and the tiny fish)!
So I have mentioned how Baby Z is in a hurry to grow up. Why, oh why wont he slow down. Well. When we got home from the cabin, I needed him to take a nap so I put him in his crib to cry it out a bit, remember he got a bit spoiled. Well, all of a sudden his cry changed and was he mad! I could tell he wouldn't settle down on his own so went into is room and this is what I see.
There he was standing in his crib, holding on for dear life and screaming bloody murder! He looks like he is smiling but he is PISSED! Needless to say the pretty bumper and the mobile have come out of the crib. He can step up on the bumper and can now reach and pull on the mobile. My baby's room doesn't look so much like a nursery any more.....this is happening way too fast!
That was one week ago. Now his mission in life is to stand up wherever he can. And once he gets to standing, he has started to practice letting go with one hand. Where did my little baby go? At only 15 lbs, he is still little, he is just very mobile and not so interested in snuggling anymore. Booooo.
Which leads to my last thoughts. We have obviously started to be done with some of the baby stuff. The bouncy seat, the swing, the baby bathtub.... So Husband says we should have a sale. Logically this makes sense, clear some space, earn back a little $, but something in me just wont say yes. On one hand, we always planned on just two kids, our house is not big enough for another (although the family we bought it from had 4 kids - there is only 1 bathroom!!!!), and our budget is certainly not big enough for another. And yet, just like with the birth control.....I cant seem to bring myself to be done. Is it the struggle to have Z and not being willing to cut off the ability? Is it unwillingness to accept that that chapter of my life is coming to a close? Do I really want a 3rd baby? Can my body take another pregnancy at 38ish? Sigh, baby Z being on such a fast track has made me long to keep him small.
So I hang on to every moment and try to figure out my head. J will start 1st grade in September...yikes. He to is getting big fast. Right now he is enjoying 2 overnights with his Grammy in IL along with his 5 older cousins. They have many fun adventures planned. When did he get old enough for that? He didn't even call to say goodnight.....I might call tonight, I miss him.
Enjoy the rest of summer friends, stay safe, wear your sunscreen and good luck on any journey you are on.
Well this summer is just a whirlwind - it's going by waaaay too fast. How in the heck did it become August? I promised pictures a few weeks ago but I swear it was just the other day! I will not post this with out pictures, I promise!
Since that post we went to a cabin in central Wisconsin with some very good friends. I'm not sure I would take a mobile 6 month old to a tiny cabin with 4 adults and 3 other children again but we did. When we planned it, we thought he would be much more stationary. How mobile can he be at 6 months right? Not so much -he was everywhere! Next year he will be 18 months old and very mobile but I am prepared for that and it seems much more manageable
Husband got pretty sick while we were there. Threw up a few times and had some pretty serious tummy trouble. 8 bodies, 2 bedrooms and 1 tiny bathroom He was miserable, and if it hadn't been almost a 6 hour drive (due to several stops to let out a complaining Z) we would have gone home. By staying at least he could be in a bed an only have to pray that no one was in the bathroom when he needed it. Baby Z got a bit spoiled in that I couldn't really let him cry it out in such close quarters and with a sick daddy. So every time he cried I picked him up. Two of the mornings I took him outside in an effort to let everyone else sleep. This pic was taken at 6 am, we had already been up since 5 and gone outside due to Z discovering how to screech!
The rest of us had a great time! Swimming in the lake, taking out the paddle boat a few times (I am seriously out of shape - that totally kicked my a$$!). Here is a nice pic of all the kids in the lake. My bestie E is right nearby and the curly headed girl in purple is my god-daughter. (Z is E's god-son. We are a tight bunch.)
Someone gave us a Dome Away from Home thing for Z, I dont think they make them anymore but was it nice. It was a gorgeous breezy day so I put Z in it near the lake and 30 min later I saw this......
What a life, I totally would have sacked out like that if there was one in my size!
On Saturday, Husband rallied in order to coach me through prepping the ribs for a long 6 hour smoke (OMG were they good!) and to get J set up to fish. J had practiced his casting all day Friday while daddy was sick so was pretty good by the time he actually got a worm and a hook on the line. Didn't take long before he caught his first fish all by himself. This was the first year that Husband wasn't right there helping. Look at that smile (and the tiny fish)!
So I have mentioned how Baby Z is in a hurry to grow up. Why, oh why wont he slow down. Well. When we got home from the cabin, I needed him to take a nap so I put him in his crib to cry it out a bit, remember he got a bit spoiled. Well, all of a sudden his cry changed and was he mad! I could tell he wouldn't settle down on his own so went into is room and this is what I see.
There he was standing in his crib, holding on for dear life and screaming bloody murder! He looks like he is smiling but he is PISSED! Needless to say the pretty bumper and the mobile have come out of the crib. He can step up on the bumper and can now reach and pull on the mobile. My baby's room doesn't look so much like a nursery any more.....this is happening way too fast!
That was one week ago. Now his mission in life is to stand up wherever he can. And once he gets to standing, he has started to practice letting go with one hand. Where did my little baby go? At only 15 lbs, he is still little, he is just very mobile and not so interested in snuggling anymore. Booooo.
Which leads to my last thoughts. We have obviously started to be done with some of the baby stuff. The bouncy seat, the swing, the baby bathtub.... So Husband says we should have a sale. Logically this makes sense, clear some space, earn back a little $, but something in me just wont say yes. On one hand, we always planned on just two kids, our house is not big enough for another (although the family we bought it from had 4 kids - there is only 1 bathroom!!!!), and our budget is certainly not big enough for another. And yet, just like with the birth control.....I cant seem to bring myself to be done. Is it the struggle to have Z and not being willing to cut off the ability? Is it unwillingness to accept that that chapter of my life is coming to a close? Do I really want a 3rd baby? Can my body take another pregnancy at 38ish? Sigh, baby Z being on such a fast track has made me long to keep him small.
So I hang on to every moment and try to figure out my head. J will start 1st grade in September...yikes. He to is getting big fast. Right now he is enjoying 2 overnights with his Grammy in IL along with his 5 older cousins. They have many fun adventures planned. When did he get old enough for that? He didn't even call to say goodnight.....I might call tonight, I miss him.
Enjoy the rest of summer friends, stay safe, wear your sunscreen and good luck on any journey you are on.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Time - flying by and not enough of it
Can you believe it? Today Z is 6 months old by the calendar (26 weeks on Thursday). He has cut two teeth, can sit up on his own and started to crawl. (yes thats a bit early) He has started on cereal and we have introduced peas. He is still a little guy, in the 12th percentile, but is starting to get some chub on his thighs so I think we are headed in the right direction! He puts everything in his mouth that he can. Example: This weekend we had to attend a funeral and we were at a luncheon afterwards and he was playing on the floor. I looked away for a min to talk to Husband and when I looked back he had crawled to their suede couch and was chewing on it! Like a puppy! Thank fully they were quite gracious and have many grandchildren so it was probably not the first time for that couch but still.
I still breastfeed before he goes down between 8 and 9pm then on demand until 6:30ish in the morning - he usually wakes up just once around 4 and then again at 6ish. He happily takes a bottle during the day that contains whatever breast milk I can pump from the day before and we top it off with formula. I am very proud that I have made it this long pumping during the day, I think I stopped in May with J. Sadly, I cannot keep up with his needs. I only get about 8-9 ounces out of 2 or 3 pumping during the day. Even on the weekends I cannot supply him with his needs so I have been pumping and topping off because he gets so frustrated with me. I am seriously considering dropping the daytime pumping altogether and just maintaining the nighttime nursing. Yet, I am proud of the precious 2-3 ounces I can put in each of his bottles. I am so torn. Husband says it totally up to me. I want to do whats best but its a lot of time and effort for so little reward. This week I have dropped to 2 pumpings during the day and still am getting about 8oz. We will see.
For the rest of us, things have been whirlwind busy this summer. Swimming lessons for J on Tuesdays, swimming for all of us (usually just J goes in and we socialize) on Thursdays and activities with friends and family on weekends. We are having a great time. But I just don't have time. There is not much left over after activities and baby. My house is not as clean as it should be. No really. There is dust everywhere. I am barely on top of the laundry, and we eat take out WAAAAy more than we should cause there is either nothing in the fridge to eat for dinner/lunch or we dont have time to cook it. Getting off of work at 5, to barely get home before 6 with out any extra stops makes getting it all done really hard. I am seriously thinking about a cleaning lady once a month to start with. That doesnt seem like a lot but at this point its probably more than Im getting done. God that's embarrassing to say.
So for now, I'm trying to focus on the fact that I have happy healthy kids. We are having a fun summer, enjoying our backyard with family and friends. I hope to be a better more frequent blogger someday soon and I will post pics of the kiddos soon.
Stay cool everyone.
I still breastfeed before he goes down between 8 and 9pm then on demand until 6:30ish in the morning - he usually wakes up just once around 4 and then again at 6ish. He happily takes a bottle during the day that contains whatever breast milk I can pump from the day before and we top it off with formula. I am very proud that I have made it this long pumping during the day, I think I stopped in May with J. Sadly, I cannot keep up with his needs. I only get about 8-9 ounces out of 2 or 3 pumping during the day. Even on the weekends I cannot supply him with his needs so I have been pumping and topping off because he gets so frustrated with me. I am seriously considering dropping the daytime pumping altogether and just maintaining the nighttime nursing. Yet, I am proud of the precious 2-3 ounces I can put in each of his bottles. I am so torn. Husband says it totally up to me. I want to do whats best but its a lot of time and effort for so little reward. This week I have dropped to 2 pumpings during the day and still am getting about 8oz. We will see.
For the rest of us, things have been whirlwind busy this summer. Swimming lessons for J on Tuesdays, swimming for all of us (usually just J goes in and we socialize) on Thursdays and activities with friends and family on weekends. We are having a great time. But I just don't have time. There is not much left over after activities and baby. My house is not as clean as it should be. No really. There is dust everywhere. I am barely on top of the laundry, and we eat take out WAAAAy more than we should cause there is either nothing in the fridge to eat for dinner/lunch or we dont have time to cook it. Getting off of work at 5, to barely get home before 6 with out any extra stops makes getting it all done really hard. I am seriously thinking about a cleaning lady once a month to start with. That doesnt seem like a lot but at this point its probably more than Im getting done. God that's embarrassing to say.
So for now, I'm trying to focus on the fact that I have happy healthy kids. We are having a fun summer, enjoying our backyard with family and friends. I hope to be a better more frequent blogger someday soon and I will post pics of the kiddos soon.
Stay cool everyone.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
A Birth Control Discussion - really?
Hello Friends,
Its hard to believe that after 3+ years of no birth control, adding fertility drugs and all the other stuff resulting in no baby and then not 1 but 2 pregnancies last year, one, thankfully resulting in baby Z, I must discuss and think about birth control. But it is a reality. So here goes.
Now, mind you, at my 6 week postpartum appt I asked to be put on the mini-pill while breastfeeding, because when you have a baby in January, it is entirely possible to have another baby in the same calendar year. YIKES! That was a form of Russian Roulette I was not willing to play. Our finances, and our household space could not take another baby right now. Oh, of course we would make it work, but I would have to quit my job and it would be beyond hard.
Husband and I have always discussed only wanting two children. Now, after lots of hard work and prayers, our family is complete with two children. Five months complete. I am having a hard time keeping up on the pumping at work and my body knows it as it just started its 2nd cycle post baby. This means that the mini pill combined with breast feeding may not be doing enough to prevent further pregnancy. So a decision had to be made. My doctor gave us several options:
1 - Condom - prolly not a popular choice for Husband and I'm not a huge fan
2 - Pull and Pray. Yes you read that right! I had never heard it called that and thought it was very funny. But not reliable and not always satisfying and to be honest I think we were trying that method when I told him not to cause it was sooo good and we got Z..... 'nough said.
3 - Switch to the regular pill, don't forget to take it.
4 - Do something more permanent to either Husband or myself. Now most people, after having 2 babies, would have their husband go get snipped. But mine has already had a surgery down there for testicular cancer and he is none to thrilled to do it again, even though its minor. He has said that he would if that's what I wanted but he'd rather not. Can you blame him? I cant. So that leaves me. Should I get my tubes tied? While I'm fairly certain that we are done, it took soooo long to get baby Z that I'm reluctant to jump right to permanent. Can you blame me?
5 - Dr VF recommended Mi.r.ena. She said it has same sucess rate as snipping or tubes and can be put in, work for 5 years and if we change our minds about another baby, it can be removed and we can try right away. Called my ins and they said it was covered in full after deductible. Well, I had a baby in Jan so we have beyond met our deductible for this year! So for $0 I can have it put in and have no costs associated with birth control for the next 5 years........ No brainer!
Yesterday, I went and had it put in. A little painful going in, and then crampy for the rest of the day and today nothing. No co-pays for 5 years, nothing to think about for 5 years, nothing permanent for 5 years, and no babies for 5 years. At that point I will be old. Yes I will be old then, and will be ready to make a more permanent decision. Or I can just have another put in and go from there. :)
So there you have it. I successfully made a decision with out actually making a decision. Have a great 4th of July folks.
Its hard to believe that after 3+ years of no birth control, adding fertility drugs and all the other stuff resulting in no baby and then not 1 but 2 pregnancies last year, one, thankfully resulting in baby Z, I must discuss and think about birth control. But it is a reality. So here goes.
Now, mind you, at my 6 week postpartum appt I asked to be put on the mini-pill while breastfeeding, because when you have a baby in January, it is entirely possible to have another baby in the same calendar year. YIKES! That was a form of Russian Roulette I was not willing to play. Our finances, and our household space could not take another baby right now. Oh, of course we would make it work, but I would have to quit my job and it would be beyond hard.
Husband and I have always discussed only wanting two children. Now, after lots of hard work and prayers, our family is complete with two children. Five months complete. I am having a hard time keeping up on the pumping at work and my body knows it as it just started its 2nd cycle post baby. This means that the mini pill combined with breast feeding may not be doing enough to prevent further pregnancy. So a decision had to be made. My doctor gave us several options:
1 - Condom - prolly not a popular choice for Husband and I'm not a huge fan
2 - Pull and Pray. Yes you read that right! I had never heard it called that and thought it was very funny. But not reliable and not always satisfying and to be honest I think we were trying that method when I told him not to cause it was sooo good and we got Z..... 'nough said.
3 - Switch to the regular pill, don't forget to take it.
4 - Do something more permanent to either Husband or myself. Now most people, after having 2 babies, would have their husband go get snipped. But mine has already had a surgery down there for testicular cancer and he is none to thrilled to do it again, even though its minor. He has said that he would if that's what I wanted but he'd rather not. Can you blame him? I cant. So that leaves me. Should I get my tubes tied? While I'm fairly certain that we are done, it took soooo long to get baby Z that I'm reluctant to jump right to permanent. Can you blame me?
5 - Dr VF recommended Mi.r.ena. She said it has same sucess rate as snipping or tubes and can be put in, work for 5 years and if we change our minds about another baby, it can be removed and we can try right away. Called my ins and they said it was covered in full after deductible. Well, I had a baby in Jan so we have beyond met our deductible for this year! So for $0 I can have it put in and have no costs associated with birth control for the next 5 years........ No brainer!
Yesterday, I went and had it put in. A little painful going in, and then crampy for the rest of the day and today nothing. No co-pays for 5 years, nothing to think about for 5 years, nothing permanent for 5 years, and no babies for 5 years. At that point I will be old. Yes I will be old then, and will be ready to make a more permanent decision. Or I can just have another put in and go from there. :)
So there you have it. I successfully made a decision with out actually making a decision. Have a great 4th of July folks.
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